“But remember: in any worthwhile endeavor there’s risk involved. Fall in love, fight for something you believe in, or paddle out on a day that scares you — the risk is always there. But perhaps the greater risk is to live out these shallow lives, running from our fears and dreams.” – Jon Foreman
About two year ago I wrote a post entitled A Beautiful Life Full of Risk. It was inspired by an essay I had read at the time – Madness and the Crayfish Factory by Jon Foreman. In a nutshell, my post discussed fear and how it can cripple us, but that anything worth doing will most likely hold some level of fear and risk. This, however, shouldn’t stop us from living. (I also encourage you to read A Beautiful Life Full of Risk.)
Now, here I am, two years later, reading that post over again and thinking how not much has changed. There’s still a fear in this world that works to tie us down and hold us back. There’s still a fear in this world that works as hard in the good places as it does in the bad. We’re still afraid to take chances, to make mistakes, to fall in love, to venture out on our own, to break the mold of the everyday and to simply live.
Fear doesn’t discriminate. I’ve noticed that it doesn’t care about your sex, race, gender or background. If it wants you, it will find you, and it will dig its claws into your flesh. It will live inside you and feed off you. Eventually, if we don’t fight it, I believe it will become a part of us.
I’ve watch fear take hold of people. I’ve watched as they’ve been afraid to really gain a life of their own (as they still live in the past), afraid to move on, afraid to love and be loved, afraid to live. The sad part is, life still lives inside them and, every now and again, you see it break free. The worst part is that no one can help them and they must be the ones to help themselves.
For me, I’ve taken my own advice. I’ve taken risk after risk after risk. I’ve taken chances with my career(s) and now am in a place where I’m happy. (Although, there’s a much longer road to travel and there was an even longer road to get to where I am today.) I’ve fallen in love. After so many horrible experiences I choose to let someone special in and ended up falling in love. (And although scary at first, it’s one of the most beautiful, wonderful feelings.) I’ve started stepping outside the box in many aspects of life and really living. I thought I was living before, and I was, but there were so many things I was missing out on and didn’t even know it.
That’s why I say – forget fear and take a risk. It might not always work out in your favor, but it’s better then wondering “what if” and missing out on something wonderful. So take a chance, go on an adventure, fall in love…simply live.